Description
For parents fed up with constant challenges to their authority-but who dread becoming tyrants in their own homes-this book provides a powerful new alternative to 'because I said so.' Trusted family therapist and author Michael P. Nichols takes on the number-one problem of parents today with the insight and humor that has made his earlier The Lost Art of Listening an enduring bestseller. Presented is a simple, easy-to-follow, yet remarkably effective way to put an end to arguments by refusing to argue back. Instead, the techniques of responsive listening help parents open up better communication in the family; create an atmosphere of respect and cooperation; and take children's feelings into account-without giving in to their demands. Loads of realistic examples help parents defuse whining and defiance and manage common conflicts with preschoolers to teens.
Chapter
CH$1. Taking Charge of Your Children Without a Battle
CH$2. The Five Steps of Responsive Listening
CH$3. How to Head Off Arguments Before They Start
CH$4. How to Inspire Cooperation in Your Children
CH$5. Breaking the Cycle of Chronic Arguing
PART II How to Apply Responsive Listening to Different Age Groups
CH$6. Young Children: Tears and Tantrums
CH$7. School-Age Children: “Do I Have To?”
CH$8. Teenagers: “You Can’t Tell Me What to Do!”
CH$9. The Changing Dynamics of the Adolescent Family
10. When Arguing Seems Unavoidable: How to Use Responsive Listening in the Toughest Situations